Whether it is teams or an individual the real power of Emotional Intelligence can be seen during difficult times. The perceived intensity of challenges is just a manifestation of our emotional responses. We engage with the situation purely based on our thoughts and emotions. Some deal with it with ease while others experience immobilization. Our success depends upon personal emotional responses, which manifests in our behaviour.
Let us thus reflect how Emotional Intelligence helps us to stay on course. In my experience with leaders across continents, I have noticed self-awareness plays a crucial role in dealing with situations of life and work. Our perpetual passions and committed goals keep us focussed. They are the key to mitigating all distractions around us. Our values and principles hold us on correct methods while the inventory of our strengths gives us the capabilities to be deployed. The situation suddenly looks easy to deal with. This is one competence I have seen leaders desire and crave for.
Our self-awareness immediately moves us into self-regulation. Our emotional responses and thoughts directly converge into active reactions, which generate empowered actions or success behaviours. The world around us primarily sees our behaviour as people cannot see our inner processes. Our demonstrated behaviours are capable of triggering positivity and hope in the minds of people around us. After all, leaders are always in control of themselves which is primarily their responses.
Self-regulation creates proactive engagement to deal with situations, and it activates instant self-motivation. Hope always increases the perceived probability of success, which in turn inspires us to go for action. Externally borrowed motivation seldom helps.
Self-motivation creates a flow of positive energy, and we are able to see the world around us in a different light. When we are positive, we interpret all situations around us with a 360-degree viewpoint. This provides us holistic insights into situations and people around us. We are able to see their world and their emotional responses. People in active engagement always have a locus of control within themselves, which drives their internal power and generates empathy for people around them. Empathy makes them feel other person’s emotional responses.
With the above four capabilities demonstrated the person acts as a magnet for people around and is thus able to create effective relationships. It is also the wisdom of self-awareness that tells us that after a particular orbit, success is always an outcome of co-creation. With co-creation every challenge is surmountable.
It is all about being aware of ourselves. It is essential to audit our behavioural responses and with self-awareness resolve to correct them. Success thus becomes the natural outcome. Life has given us the option to win, let’s action it.